Issues (with Melissa)

John Matthews & Melissa Culbertson address your troubles. Unstable workplace? Friendships failing? Relationship at risk? Horrifying medical scare? All problems considered. Email issues@kslg.com if you can't find a solution. Broadcast live every Thursday at 10am PT on 94.1 KSLG.



• (Thursday, March 28, 2013) How To Buy Someone Else’s Cancelled Wedding

Has your wedding been called off? Looking to buy a wedding on the cheap? Bridal Brokerage claims to be the 'leader in buying and selling cancelled weddings.' http://bit.ly/OOMlZy [Read more: http://ht.ly/jnacn] A person is feeling pressured into having oral sex. A woman is frustrated with her husband's need to bring home 'broken stuff.' SCRAP Humboldt Director Tibora Bea Girczyc-Blum fills in for Melissa. Find her online here: http://bit.ly/161aSOk.

• (Thursday, March 28, 2013) Splitting Household Chores

A recent article in the Atlantic suggests that 'obsessing over a completely fair division of labor defeats the purpose of marriage.' [http://bit.ly/ZXB9el] A woman is starting to think that she is boring in bed. A person is becoming distracted by his partner's somewhat loud style of having sex. [Aired on 3/21/13]

Melissa & John talk about the custom of women assuming the husband's name. [http://bit.ly/Zh9fvC] Someone is not sure what to do about a sketchy landlord. A person has grown tired of defending using pot as medicine. [Aired on 3/14/13]

• (Friday, March 15, 2013) Power And Leadership Between Men And Women

Melissa talks about a study of the female brain. The findings suggest women should be at the wheel. [http://huff.to/13F9PqA] Someone is concerned about divulging privileged information. [Aired on 3/07/13]

• (Friday, March 15, 2013) Nicknames For People You’re Dating

Do you give nicknames to people you are dating? [http://bit.ly/YSPeb0] A woman is upset with her boyfriend who discussed a past fling. Someone is disturbed by a couple that constantly fights. [Aired on 2/28/13]

• (Thursday, Feb. 21, 2013) Should You Try Meditation? (Yes!)

Melissa talks about her recent experiences with meditation. The Deepak Chopra 21-Day 'Meditation Challenge' she mentions can be found here: http://bit.ly/Vp2giZ. Another useful site: http://bit.ly/uaOm. A person is looking for a new job. A woman's sex life is being impacted by trouble within her boyfriend's family.

• (Tuesday, Feb. 19, 2013) Romance Scams

Online romance scams seem to increase around Valentine's Day. [http://usat.ly/UfO8sW] A woman doesn't want to be a bridesmaid. How to deal with a bad landlord. [Aired on 2/14/13]

• (Tuesday, Feb. 19, 2013) Save Your Relationship With Drugs

A philosopher argues that taking love-altering drugs might help relationships. [http://bit.ly/WDeFzK] Talking to a friend about halitosis. A woman isn't sure about what to do with a boyfriend who constantly talks about other women. [Aired on 2/07/13]

• (Tuesday, Feb. 19, 2013) Adult Relationships

Melissa found an article that discusses 'becoming an authentic adult' and how to put passion back in relationships. [http://bit.ly/JoNG0b.] Someone is not sure how to repair a friendship that was damaged due to a rejected sperm donation. A person is concerned about exposing a partner to STDs. [Aired on 1/31/13]

• (Tuesday, Feb. 19, 2013) Is Adultery Ever 'Harmless?'

A new Human Rights Watch investigation finds DC police underinvestigate reports, disrespect and intimidate victims. [http://bit.ly/11TOgld] A child is coping with separated parents who argue. Someone is looking for an exit strategy for an affair. [Aired on 1/24/13]

• (Thursday, Jan. 17, 2013) Get The Flu Vaccine NOW!

Melissa, John, and Irene begin by discussing whether or not high self-esteem has value. [http://ti.me/VG2RwB] Soon the conversation shifts to the flu vaccine. John takes the sane position of arguing for people to get the flu shot this season. Melissa & Irene disagree, but offer little to support their argument. A person has a question about dealing with an annoying co-worker.

• (Sunday, Jan. 13, 2013) Is Online Romance Threatening Monogamy? (No)

The Atlantic recently ran a weak article called “A Million First Dates: How online romance is threatening monogamy.” Read it here: http://bit.ly/ZVOCIh. A response to the article can be found over here: http://bit.ly/10UjkRl. Melissa & John then go through a letter containing several etiquette and ethics questions.

• (Thursday, Jan. 3, 2013) Keeping A Marriage 'Fresh'

Melissa & John take a look at a recent Huffington Post article that suggests ways to keep your marriage “fresh.” [http://huff.to/ZbNzm8] A woman was embarrassed by her husband's behavior in a sex shop. Someone is concerned that a coworker is behaving erratically.

• (Friday, Dec. 28, 2012) The Perils Of A Fake Dating Profile

An update from a woman who created a bogus online dating profile and discovered something unfortunate. Original story: http://bit.ly/VmFW9l. A man isn't sure how to deal with his wife's request that he start using cologne. A person is having trouble dealing with anger/frustration. [Aired on 12/27/12]

A poll commissioned by California online data-storage company Backblaze found that “one in 4 men said they would regret not having more sex if the world does end.” Someone is concerned about a friend being exploited. A person seems to be coping with seasonal affective disorder, or SAD. [Aired on 12/20/12]

• (Thursday, Dec. 20, 2012) Driving While Stoned

Melissa and John speak with WeedSmokersGuide.com founder Jon Marley about driving while high on marijuana. [CBS: http://cbsn.ws/RnNgT4] A woman isn't sure what to do about her gray pubic hair. Someone is having trouble with a boyfriend who spends time flirting with old girlfriends on Facebook. [Aired on 12/13/12]

• (Thursday, Dec. 20, 2012) Designer Vaginas

A new study says “designer vagina” procedures are often misleading and poorly described. [http://bit.ly/V1ETx7] Someone is having difficulty coping with a boyfriend who insists on anal sex. A woman created a bogus online dating profile and discovered something unfortunate. [Aired on 11/29/12]

• (Thursday, Dec. 20, 2012) Overestimating A Woman's Interest

The Wall Street Journal recently ran an article about “the new rules of flirting.” [http://on.wsj.com/Shy8B4] A person is not sure how to deal with a situation that appears to involve child abuse. Someone is having trouble with his girlfriend's desire to leave Humboldt. [Aired on 11/15/12]

• (Thursday, Dec. 20, 2012) The Power Of Sexual Fantasy

A recent CNN article suggests that women are discovering the power of sexual fantasy, some for the first time. (http://bit.ly/QhJ6v6) Someone is concerned about not being able to spend enough money on holiday gifts. A person is not sure how to deal with a co-worker's Facebook friend request. [Aired on 11/08/12]

• (Friday, Nov. 9, 2012) The Decline Of 'Sexy Halloween'

The Arizona Republic’s Megan Finnerty talks about her recent piece, “Women rethinking roles as Halloween eye candy.” (Found here: http://bit.ly/VMTZaw.) Someone isn't sure how to handle a co-worker who shares every detail of her pregnancy. A woman is dealing with a Facebook obsessed boyfriend. [Aired on 11/01/12]

Melissa & John talk about a recent study which suggests that the youth of today find social networking sites more compelling than sexual relationships. A woman isn't sure what to do with her ailing dog. Someone is having a difficult time with bouts of anxiety. Social media vs. sex study found here: http://cbsloc.al/Qei9E7. [Aired on 10/25/12]

• (Friday, Oct. 19, 2012) Dealing With Inconsiderate Neighbors

Dr. Arline L. Bronzaft talks with Melissa & John about overcoming difficult situations with neighbors. A young man is less than enthusiastic about his boyfriend's desire to introduce a third person into their sexual relationship. [Aired on 10/18/12]

• (Thursday, Oct. 11, 2012) Spying On Your Spouse

Melissa & John speak with local private investigator Trevor Enright from Cook and Associates about the growing use of readily available gadgets and software to spy on a suspected cheater. A “mystery guest” explains why she uses software to monitor every keystroke in her house. A woman is concerned about her waning libido.

Melissa & John talk to the Director of Humboldt Family Service Center Paula Nedelcoff about communicating with your partner. Someone is upset about not receiving respect at work. A person writes in about a possible sex addiction. IMPORTANT: The Humboldt Family Service Center offers FREE 1-on-1 walk-in sessions every Monday from 1pm to 4pm. Location: 1802 California Street Eureka, CA 95501 (707) 443-7358.

• (Friday, Sept. 28, 2012) Sex Before Marriage

John and guest co-host Sherae O'Shaughnessy talk about a recent article that lays out the moral case for sex before marriage. (Article found here: bit.ly/Q0ZPNQ) Someone isn't sure how to help a friend in a troubled marriage. A woman is dealing with a husband who believes she is too flirtatious.

• (Friday, Sept. 28, 2012) Doubts About Marriage

Researchers at the University of California, Los Angeles, say their four-year study of newlyweds finds those with uncertainty were less satisfied with their marriages. Someone is concerned about growing old. A man is trying to find the right way to talk to his daughter about sexual topics. [Aired on 9/20/12]

• (Thursday, Sept. 27, 2012) Pat Robertson “Jokes” About Wife Beating

Televangelist/horrible person Pat Robertson recently joked about wife beating as he advised a man to put his “rebellious” wife in her place. Someone is being pressured into performing karaoke. A woman is embarrassed that she forgot to flush the toilet. [Aired on 9/13/12]

• (Thursday, Sept. 27, 2012) Shaming Cheaters Online

Melissa & John speak with James McGibney, the founder and CEO of CheaterVille.com, a website that allows users to anonymously “out” cheaters. A person isn't sure how to deal with a co-worker who is stealing items from work. A woman is considering resuming a relationship. [Aired on 9/06/12]

• (Thursday, Sept. 27, 2012) Trashing Your Ex On Facebook

Slamming an ex on the internet could land you in court, sued for libel or having a harsher judgment levied against you in a divorce settlement. Someone is coping with severe depression. A person is dealing with being obese. National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK. Facebook article mentioned in the podcast: reut.rs/O53r02 [Aired on 8/30/12]

• (Thursday, Aug. 23, 2012) Casual Sex And HIV Status

Gawker's Rich Juzwiak talks about his experiences in the online hook-up world. Someone is having difficulty dealing with his girlfriend's stepmother. A man is trying to extract himself from a complicated affair with a co-worker. Find Rich's article here: http://gaw.kr/NkMY7j

• (Thursday, Aug. 16, 2012) Anal Tattoos: A New Trend?

John Matthews and guest co-host Sherae O'Shaughnessy speak to Dr. Lawrence Rubin about modern tattooing. A young woman is not sure what she should do after high school. A person is having difficulty enduring someone's body odor in the office. Find Sherae on Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/badumchh

John Matthews and guest co-host Sherae O'Shaughnessy speak to Brandon Wade who runs several websites that match ‘sugar daddies’ with ‘babies.’ A person reveals she has been cutting herself. A woman is hoping to convince her boyfriend to attend an Impropriety Society event. Find Sherae on Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/badumchh

• (Thursday, Aug. 2, 2012) Should I Date a Co-Worker?

Melissa provides an update on her OkCupid misadventures. A person can't seem to stop spending himself into serious trouble. A man isn't sure if he should pursue a relationship in the office.

• (Thursday, July 26, 2012) Surviving A Long-Distance Relationship

Melissa reveals she is online dating again, three weeks after declaring that would never happen. Someone is concerned her relationship might not survive a 10-month separation. A woman is being pressured by her partner to perform certain sexual acts she finds uncomfortable.

• (Thursday, July 19, 2012) Staying Friends With An Ex

Melissa & John discuss the possibility of remaining friends with an ex. Someone is concerned that he doesn't have anything in common with his girlfriend. A vibrator seems to be getting in the way of a satisfying relationship.

• (Thursday, July 12, 2012) The Humboldt Bachelorette Speaks

Blogger “Caledonia Dawson” talks about her Humboldt Bachelorette site and local dating experiences. Young man believes his girlfriend's jealousy was a contributing factor to his poor performance at HSU. Someone is concerned about being a virgin as he gets older. Visit Caledonia's site: http://humboldtbachelorette.blogspot.com/

• (Thursday, July 5, 2012) Should I Stop Drinking?

A man is upset with his girlfriend's flirtatious behavior. Someone is not sure if she is drinking too much. Melissa & John talk about finding love online. The video for OnlineBootyCall, which is referenced in the discussion, can be found here (this is not an endorsement whatsoever): http://youtu.be/KDTHo9G_t4o

• (Thursday, June 28, 2012) Mr. X & The Payoff To Non-monogamy

Mr. X explains why he thinks an open relationship is rewarding. A woman has a question about the impact of fantasizing about other men during sex. [Aired on 06/28/12]

• (Friday, June 22, 2012) Sterilization Vs. Boyfriend

Melissa & John talk to Lou about how she should discuss her plan to be sterilized with her new boyfriend who seems to want more children. Also covered a woman's problem with her Brazilian duty. [Aired on 06/21/12]

• (Friday, June 22, 2012) Does He Love Me? (John Says No)

Caller wants direction regarding a possible relationship. Also, a mother is not sure what to do with stoner son. [Aired on 6/14/12]

• (Friday, June 22, 2012) Trouble With Methadone Clinic

Melissa & John talk to someone dealing with a relative hooked on methadone. Also address the wisdom of having sex with your best friend's roommate. [Aired on 06/07/12]