It is with great sorrow that we had to say goodbye to our wonderful mother and grandmother, Darcy DeMello. On the morning of Febuary 20, 2023, Darcy passed peacefully with her two daughters by her side.

Darcy was born on August 18, 1955 to Ken and Lorraine Boe in Missoula, Montana. She was the youngest of four siblings. Darcy grew up being the baby of the family, but that never stopped her from being tenacious and fighting for what she wanted. This made her passionate and stubborn about all things that she loved and cared about. Following in her mother’s footsteps, she was the driving force of the family. Darcy was caring, loving, giving and definitely in charge. Watching her two older brothers playing basketball in the gym from a young age stayed with Darcy through her entire life. She attributed her love of the sport to her two older brothers.

Darcy graduated from Arcata High in 1973. During her senior year she met the love of her life, Raymond DeMello. They were married for 35 happy years before he was taken to soon from our family. She became the matriarch of our family, allowing us to heal and move on in a strong and humble way, honoring their legacy as a family.

Darcy earned her nursing degree in 1975 from College of the Redwoods, and since graduating she had served our community as a registered nurse.

She is survived by her two daughters and son-in-laws, Maren and Nate Goodman, and Melissa and Dan Kaiser. Darcy also has four grandchildren. Payton and Julian Goodman, and Marayah and Madelyn Kaiser. She is also survived by her two brothers and sister-in-laws Owen and Donna Boe, and Steve and Denise Boe, and their families, and her in-laws Joe and June DeMello. Along with numerous family members from both the Boe and DeMello families.

Darcy was an avid traveler and loved planning her next adventure. From the early days with her family, backpacking, camping, river/lake trips, road-tripping to skiing the slopes, she shared a love of the outdoors. Later in life, she discovered her passion of international travel, and explored numerous places. Whether she was traveling with her friends or family, she always looked forward to each and evey trip. While planning her trip itinerary was exciting in itself, her favorite part was planning her wardrobe to match her destination. But her all-time favorite place was spending time on Trinity Lake with her family.

Darcy spent over 45 years in the medical field as a registered nurse and was respected and loved by her peers and colleagues. She was a beautiful, brilliant, funny, extraordinary nurse. She was always a steady guiding light, and brought serenity and tranquility to any and all situations. Those were close to Darcy said she taught by example and lead with courage, and was always fair and supportive. She made life long friends whom she talked about and cherished always. She spent 30 plus years at Mad River Community Hospital and finished her career in Administration at St. Joseph Hospital. Helping and caring for our community was a true passion for Darcy. She loved what she did, and took pride in being a nurse.

Darcy was married to Ray DeMello for 35 years before he passed away in 2011. They were a fun-loving couple and knew how to have a good time. They always put family and friends first and will both be sorely missed by anyone fortunate enough to know either or both of them. Darcy was a fierce lover of her family, and they were always her top priority. She passed along to her two daughters the importance of keeping loved ones close. She was extremely proud of Maren and Melissa, but her four grandkids were the loves of her life and brought a new passion and excitement. She cherished every moment she had with them, and felt extremely lucky to be their grandmother. No matter what the grandkids were doing or participating in, “Grams” was right there cheering them on and encouraging them to be the best they can be.

Darcy will be missed and always remembered but never forgotten. Our family and community will never be the same, but life will go on with her in our hearts. Darcy left a legacy of memories, traditions, and family values that will be passed on through generations.

We will be having a celebration of life at Baywood Country Club on April 1 at 4 p.m. Any and all are invited to share a memory, a story, a hug, or just your presence and a good glass of wine. If anyone has a picture of our Mom having a good time that you would like to share with us, we ask that you bring a copy. We will have a display at the celebration for photos to be added.

In lieu of flowers please donate to the Breast and GYN Health project. You can do this by going to the website and clicking “Donate Now.”


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